“A session costs HOW much?” Pt 1

People often inquire about how much money I make as a professional dominatrix. It’s funny, for some reason working in the sex industry excludes you from certain traditional courtesies.

People who would never ask a bartender or lawyer what their income is don’t even think twice about saying “whoa, how much do you make doin that?”. I am unsure what the exact correlation is, luckily I am not easily offended, so it is no big deal. I don’t make a habit of asking friends or acquaintances about their gross income but “ hey inquiring minds want to know”. I get it. My income is a tool to live my life the way I choose and a direct result of my efforts. It is not the be all , end all of my existence or a status symbol. It certainly isn’t why I got into professional domination. Trust me; there are far easier ways to make a bucket of cash. My retirement fund will come from real estate development, not slinking around in catsuits. ( Hello reality.)

Now, onto the good stuff. How much is a session with a prodomme? Well it depends, they range from $150-$250 per hour. Some are more expensive, for instance, if a Mistress is traveling or providing a specialty session. I don’t know any women I would refer you to who charge less. When you first hear those numbers it sounds like a lot of money but it can be misleading. First of all “a lot of money” is subjective depending on your lifestyle and interests. I have always decided my rates based on local averages, my equipment and expertise, not on some preconceived notion of self importance. When people come in to see me they are compensating me financially because they are unable to serve me personally due to some outside circumstances. Those circumstances could be distance, time commitments, relationship status, or any number of other things. It is a way for someone that normally would not have the opportunity to play with me the opportunity to do so in a safe, discreet environment, with clear boundaries set, in a fantasy setting perfectly equipped for our scene. The fact that I am being compensated financially means I can devote my time and attention to them exclusively. I can give them my undivided attention without trying to figure out how I am going to pay the bills or afford the toys we are using. How else would I make the time to play with so many strangers and afford the constant stream of new and interesting devices?

Collecting a large range of equipment and clothing is no inexpensive task and unfortunately, there is no little S/m fairy to drop off the perfect thing for your fantasy session. I will not bore you with the specifics of every last item but I have a collection that has taken 10 years to build and is worth tens of thousands of dollars. This is S/m and bondage equipment alone. I am also an avid poly-fetishist who enjoys latex, corsetry, gloves, shoes and boots so my wardrobe is extensive and ensembles range from $300-$2000 on average. The studio itself is 3,500 sq feet of multiple themed rooms. I also use hospital grade disinfectants and do consistent remodels and equipment additions. Combine this with advertising, computer and website costs and you can certainly see why this is such an expensive profession. Some people will say “oh you could do all of these things for a lot less” and this is true. That is why I believe a Domina’s rate should reflect her personal collection and skill level, not just the sort of work she is doing or an over inflated ego. If I didn’t have all of this overhead my rates would be lower, however that isn’t the sort of fantasy I want to live. I use the studio and accoutrements at my disposal to weave a dream world where fantasies manifest into hedonistic displays of debauchery.

I wouldn’t want to skimp on that.