Gender pt 1: Difference between a transsexual and a cross dresser?

I am getting things prepared for a month long pilgrimage to Thailand with slave fanny for her SRS surgery. I have been consumed with thoughts of transgenderism, foreign surgery, culture shock and excitement about our expedition. It seems that several of my friends are also dealing with issues of gender and sexuality. There is no time like the present to discuss the differences between dressing up and being transsexual. I realize this is a sensitive subject for many people who either are transgendered, a cross dresser or have a loved one who is. Please keep in mind when reading this, it is meant to inform people who really have no idea what any of this stuff is about. I mean no disrespect. If something isn’t said the way you might word it please try and look at the article as a whole , not an opportunity to show how current you are on your politically correct vocabulary.


What is a cross dresser? (Transvestite) A cross dresser is someone who dresses up in clothing or accoutrements of the opposite gender. There are many reasons someone may enjoy this but it is not directly related to gender identity. Sometimes a cross dresser is using this as a tool to express emotions and to develop personality elements that “society “ has assigned to the opposite gender. I enjoy dressing up and putting on my “dirty leather faggot chaps” to become “Daddy”, however I don’t feel like a male. I feel like a kinky woman in drag. I will expand on cross dressing in a later entry.


What is a transsexual? (The simple answer without getting into a bunch of subcategories…)A transsexual is a person who’s brain patterns and gender identity is the opposite of their physical form at birth. This is not all that uncommon as about 1 in 30,000 children are born with it. It is a medical condition and occurs equally in both male and female children. Transsexuality has nothing to do with sexual orientation; however, often time’s a transsexual may be lumped into the “gay” category by society due to prevalence of gender bending and cross dressing there. The gay community is very accepting of sexual differences, making it a safe haven for the wayward tranny. Transsexuals and drag queens are not the same thing. A drag queen or king is dressing up as performance art, whereas a transsexual is simply trying to make the outside match the inside. Some drag artists are also transsexual… Isn’t is fun being politically correct?

Imagine what it would be like to actually be a woman trapped in a man’s body? Or vice versa? Can you imagine being a sensitive little girl forced to run and play hardball with the boys? Imagine the horrible time in high school as all the other girls are filling out and going on dates. You left alone to figure out how you ended up with this “thing” between your legs, your family just thinking of you as the weird little “nelly” boy, the typical high school jock hazing games, all of it must be very overwhelming . Think of all of the teasing that would come on the school yard for either an effeminate “boy” or masculine “girl”…Why would anyone choose this? They don’t. That is the point. It is a very difficult life to live and those who make an effort to live a full, authentic life by transitioning deserve our respect and support. It is a hard decision that takes years of dedication and I admire those who walk the path. You make it easier for others to come out and be who they need to be in order to live a happy, healthy life, even in the face of discrimination and public ridicule. We could all learn a lesson from such bravery.