10 qualities of a good submissive
Here is another assignment from my boy (321's) journal last week. 1) HONEST - The submissive must always be truthful in his word and actions with his Dominant. He never lies.
2) TRUSTWORTHY - The Dominant must always feel that she can trust and rely on the words and actions of the submissive. His word is his bond.
3) ATTENTIVE - The submissive must focus his thoughts and emotions on the Dominant, and knows that the quality of his submission is determined by the amount of time he holds her in the forefront of his concentration. He pays attention.
4) ACTIVE - The submissive takes an active involvement in his submission, and does not rely on the Dominant for all direction. He takes action.
5) INTELLIGENT - The submissive is intelligent and thoughtful, always trying to bring both high quality analytic and intuitive thinking to the relationship. He is smart.
6) DETAIL-ORIENTED - The submissive sweats the details and ensures that even the little things are addressed. He know that Godddess is in the details.
7) OBEDIENT - The submissive does as he is told without question or hesitation. He obeys.
8) ELEGANT - The submissive seeks to be attractive and graceful in appearance, speech, and movement. He pleases the eye.
9) SELFLESS - The submissive thinks nothing of himself and puts the needs and desires of the Dominant above all. He puts her first, always.
10) ENTERTAINING - The submissive strives to be a rewarding part of the Dominants life, and brings his capacity to go beyond rote obedience to the relationship. He pleases.
2) TRUSTWORTHY - The Dominant must always feel that she can trust and rely on the words and actions of the submissive. His word is his bond.
3) ATTENTIVE - The submissive must focus his thoughts and emotions on the Dominant, and knows that the quality of his submission is determined by the amount of time he holds her in the forefront of his concentration. He pays attention.
4) ACTIVE - The submissive takes an active involvement in his submission, and does not rely on the Dominant for all direction. He takes action.
5) INTELLIGENT - The submissive is intelligent and thoughtful, always trying to bring both high quality analytic and intuitive thinking to the relationship. He is smart.
6) DETAIL-ORIENTED - The submissive sweats the details and ensures that even the little things are addressed. He know that Godddess is in the details.
7) OBEDIENT - The submissive does as he is told without question or hesitation. He obeys.
8) ELEGANT - The submissive seeks to be attractive and graceful in appearance, speech, and movement. He pleases the eye.
9) SELFLESS - The submissive thinks nothing of himself and puts the needs and desires of the Dominant above all. He puts her first, always.
10) ENTERTAINING - The submissive strives to be a rewarding part of the Dominants life, and brings his capacity to go beyond rote obedience to the relationship. He pleases.
posted by Betka Schpitz at
4/25/2007 07:51:00 AM
5 Comments:
Thank You, Ma'am! These are the qualities I strive to achieve.
321
Good list. With your permission, I'd like to send this off to one of my newer subs.
This is very beautifully written!
-sirena in ATX
i am a bit late in responding to this post, but something jumped out at me that i wanted to voice.
THis is a very good list indeed, however i must disagree with number 9.
"9) SELFLESS - The submissive thinks nothing of himself and puts the needs and desires of the Dominant above all. He puts her first, always."
It is impossible to be an excellent servant and submissive if the slave is putting the needs of the dominant above all else. In order to serve in a healthy and proper mindset, i believe the slave must first become very self focused and do a lot of psychological work in order to arrive at that place of selflessness. We all carry around a zillion different egos that can and do get in the way of our true intentions, especially when we consciously think that our ego is not in the way- that in itself is ego. Focusing entirely on the needs of the dominant above all else is pointless if the slave does not know their true self and acknowledge the needs of their being prior to the dominants needs and desires. If a slave does not know how their egos control their thoughts and behaviour, then at any given point during service it is possible for the slave to forget who they really are and what they are doing. This is a disservice to the dominant and far from genuine submission.
If a slave doesn't do the internal work and become self-focused as a priority, the service is not genuine.
i think that too often a would be slave enters a D/s arrangement expecting that the dominant will fix their faults. It is nearly impossible to realize and admit this when hiding behind a veil of ego.
i've made that mistake, ego makes it painful to admit, but it's true.
If a slave thinks nothing of him/herself, why should a dominant take that responsibility on? Sounds like a lot of needless work and responsibility being forced upon a dominant.
Know thyself. Love thyself. THEN give that love through service and true intention.
Well said slave, very true it home for me. yes the list is indeed good.
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