slave fanny resting by the water...

slave fanny and I spent the day in the Gorge...

“A session costs HOW much?” Pt 1

People often inquire about how much money I make as a professional dominatrix. It’s funny, for some reason working in the sex industry excludes you from certain traditional courtesies.

People who would never ask a bartender or lawyer what their income is don’t even think twice about saying “whoa, how much do you make doin that?”. I am unsure what the exact correlation is, luckily I am not easily offended, so it is no big deal. I don’t make a habit of asking friends or acquaintances about their gross income but “ hey inquiring minds want to know”. I get it. My income is a tool to live my life the way I choose and a direct result of my efforts. It is not the be all , end all of my existence or a status symbol. It certainly isn’t why I got into professional domination. Trust me; there are far easier ways to make a bucket of cash. My retirement fund will come from real estate development, not slinking around in catsuits. ( Hello reality.)

Now, onto the good stuff. How much is a session with a prodomme? Well it depends, they range from $150-$250 per hour. Some are more expensive, for instance, if a Mistress is traveling or providing a specialty session. I don’t know any women I would refer you to who charge less. When you first hear those numbers it sounds like a lot of money but it can be misleading. First of all “a lot of money” is subjective depending on your lifestyle and interests. I have always decided my rates based on local averages, my equipment and expertise, not on some preconceived notion of self importance. When people come in to see me they are compensating me financially because they are unable to serve me personally due to some outside circumstances. Those circumstances could be distance, time commitments, relationship status, or any number of other things. It is a way for someone that normally would not have the opportunity to play with me the opportunity to do so in a safe, discreet environment, with clear boundaries set, in a fantasy setting perfectly equipped for our scene. The fact that I am being compensated financially means I can devote my time and attention to them exclusively. I can give them my undivided attention without trying to figure out how I am going to pay the bills or afford the toys we are using. How else would I make the time to play with so many strangers and afford the constant stream of new and interesting devices?

Collecting a large range of equipment and clothing is no inexpensive task and unfortunately, there is no little S/m fairy to drop off the perfect thing for your fantasy session. I will not bore you with the specifics of every last item but I have a collection that has taken 10 years to build and is worth tens of thousands of dollars. This is S/m and bondage equipment alone. I am also an avid poly-fetishist who enjoys latex, corsetry, gloves, shoes and boots so my wardrobe is extensive and ensembles range from $300-$2000 on average. The studio itself is 3,500 sq feet of multiple themed rooms. I also use hospital grade disinfectants and do consistent remodels and equipment additions. Combine this with advertising, computer and website costs and you can certainly see why this is such an expensive profession. Some people will say “oh you could do all of these things for a lot less” and this is true. That is why I believe a Domina’s rate should reflect her personal collection and skill level, not just the sort of work she is doing or an over inflated ego. If I didn’t have all of this overhead my rates would be lower, however that isn’t the sort of fantasy I want to live. I use the studio and accoutrements at my disposal to weave a dream world where fantasies manifest into hedonistic displays of debauchery.

I wouldn’t want to skimp on that.

nighty night.

The 8's , hooks, and a bevy of clam.....

That was fucking delicious. I am down in Salem, Oregon helping the 8's out with a suspension performance. Picture it... Two bald men , one sexy "desperate housewife" and 8 hooks. Mrs. 8 was strung up on hooks and suspended before having her sexy, white slip slashed and removed.( The best thing about this is it was at "Stars". A well known local strip club. I am not sure how they pulled that one off. Way to trip out the squares!) She took the hooks on the outside of each breast, mid rib, lower abdomen and wrists...I am too tired to give you the gory details and I need to hop in the shower so I can put my new funnel gag to use. If I remember I'll snap some mobile goodies for your perusal...I know one thing if I don't get to see a 'cock fight' tonight I won't sleep worth a damn. I want full on naked, running at each other, greased up, boy on boy goodness...

Dominant Responsibilities

Fantasies of BDSM are usually full of restraints, naughty talking and debauchery. If only a modern pervert's life were that simple! The way that S/m is portrayed in the media and most porn you would think it’s just as easy as grab a rope, claim a bottom , and poof; “Instant pervy goodness! You too can own a slave!” Over the years many responsibilities have popped up that I hadn’t anticipated when I decided to train and ‘own’ erotic slaves. One of the most challenging is always when to release a slave from service or not to do things you have enjoyed with someone previously because you feel it may harm them in the long term. If someone is going to trust you with their mental and physical safety they should know that these things are being considered. This is part of the huge responsibility of owning a slave, though it is one of those strange little nuances you never hear about.

I am guessing it’s because the “When to get rid of your slave” workshop would probably not be very well attended. Understandably so, none of us want to think about such un-pleasantries at a kinky event. We would much rather focus on connection than disconnection. That does not mean we shouldn’t.

I am not speaking of a simple “I don’t connect with this person” or “We don’t have the same interests.” I am talking more about established loving relationships that you connect well in. You figure out somewhere along the way that the relationship is enabling the other person to do unhealthy things to themselves, either emotionally or physically.( i.e. Using your desires to keep from having to focus on their needs or Engaging in self depreciation games of failure and guilt.) Sometimes this is not obvious; it can be a subtle pattern. It is hard for me to feel good about service that doesn’t come from the right place. For me, that place is one of humility and gratitude but also mutual respect and clear communication. Anything less doesn’t work.

I had to release a professional client once due to his age. He was a very sweet older man who had fantasies of long term, corporal enforced slave training. He waited until very late in life to explore his interest in BDSM. “Karen” was referred to me after deciding to take a trip to the OWK, his previous experience was pretty mild and this is a full immersion experience. It was sad but the decision had to be made for both his safety and mine that he be released from service. I also finally successfully convinced him to cancel his subsequent trip due to his health conditions. He was devastated to learn I would no longer see him. He had done nothing wrong, was very responsive to pain and was very respectful. It was upsetting, however, how could I possibly feel good about taking some poor sick old man's money when I truly felt that he was at risk for injuring himself with unrealistic expectations. I couldn’t and I am not in the habit of compromising my integrity that way. They sure don’t tell you this stuff in the local "How to be a Dominatrix" class…

Another more recent incident was when chatting with mr. 8. He was telling me how he is really interested in exploring more of his kinky desires but fears getting lost in them; of losing his firm grip on the realism of everyday responsibility by acting out his sexual desires. I think that fear comes from a previous experience in serving someone who considered him arm candy and an ego boost more than a play-partner. His needs were not really considered beyond those of basic safety. That is rather short-sighted and as a result, those relationships rarely work out. I also think it is frightening to submit to someone who truly understands your desires and knows how to mold you into a fantasy creature for their pleasure. No matter how hot that fantasy is, the reality of it is intense. I told him that I don’t feel like he should ever submit to anyone that he can not trust to pull him back when the time is right. It is abusive for a top to continue to push someone deeper into role if it is unhealthy for them. I consider unhealthy to be causing them to neglect family and work responsibilities, personal convictions or core beliefs for simple immediate gratification. I certainly would never want to switch with someone that selfish. Bottoms are not given enough opportunity to learn about this stuff though, with the way things work now-a-days. Anyone who hops into a chat room is a ‘Master’ or ‘Mistress’. The really sad thing is a whole generation of players are coming up with the idea that knowing when to start an instant message with “* kneeling for you pleasure, Sir” is what training is about. Sorry for the ramble there but my point is, mr. 8 should be able to trust his top to know when to “hold ‘em”. How can he fully relax into role otherwise?

Closest to my heart is one of my personal slaves whom things are growing more and more intense with. This is a time of tough contemplation for me around our relationship. I have very definative boundaries due to my career in sex work. One of the amazing things about working in this industry is that we are able to get a very clear idea of what does and does not work for us in our lives. It is always hard to have to be the one who says the time has come to part ways. It is also one of the least glamorous parts of being a dominant.

Just a few things to consider when examining your own adventures…

kitten's 'Oral Service'

I recieved a vivid scene report from kitten last night that included a rather naughty description of a rendevous we had a couple days ago. She is such a nasty little strumpet! She is a world champion pussy licker as well, you may even learn a thing or two from her slutty confession.



"...my perversion kicked into high gear and i started kissing and massaging Her body, the back of Her neck, Her back- pausing to lick Mary's pussy, and eventually Her luscious ass. i pulled Her pants down slightly and put my face on Her skin. She said that my face felt very hot, i commented back that my pussy was hotter, which produced a giggle from Her.

i began licking and kissing the top of Her ass and worked my way all around the top of Her right cheek, then moved over to the left and continued the oral worship. She was starting to get hot and i could feel Her start to undulate Her hips and lift Her ass up towards my mouth. i pulled Her pants down further and continued licking, kissing and sucking the flesh of Her beautiful ass, moving slowly towards the center where Her cheeks meet. Her hip thrusting was making my pussy drip juice, seriously. i was so turned on and excited to be given the opportunity to satiate my oral fixation and pleasure Her Grace.

This is where it gets dirty. She kicked Her pants down Her legs and i pulled them completely off, then buried my face in Her ass again. my tongue brushed close to Her asshole and She shuddered under my mouth. Of course i wanted to make that happen again, so i gingerly began massaging Her hole with my tongue until Her whole body shook in naughty anal pleasure. i spit and spread it all around Her asshole with my tongue and She pushed into my face, moaning and breathing heavy. i let my tongue trail down from Her ass to Her pussy and tongue fucked Her for a few moments before stretching further to reach the bottom of Her clit. This is where She decided to turn over and pull my face into Her cunt. i worked my tongue magic on Her clit and sucked on every part of Her pussy. She put Her hands on my head and pulled handfuls of my hair hard, which nearly sent me over the edge. i could feel my own pussy throbbing heavily and the juice dripping down my slit along my clit. i sucked Her off passionately and massaged Her g-spot and insides. i imagined myself to be a pussy licking machine on overdrive in order to keep from getting fatigued. Eventually i slowed to a medium pace and She whispered, "slower..." while pushing on the top of my head. i LOVE when She does this.

"Softer..." She instructed, and i followed Her commands, getting to the point where i was barely brushing Her sensitive, swollen, and exposed clit with the tip of my tongue. i put my hands around Her torso and fell into synchronicity with Her movement, keeping the slow and steady rhythm that i could tell was obviously working well for Her. She tensed and sighed deeply when She came, and i swear i've gotten to this point where i have some kind of mini orgasm when i feel Her pussy shiver under my mouth. i licked Her outer labia softly until Her orgasm quakes slowed, and rested my head on Her chest while She caught Her breath and shook sporadically for the next couple of minutes.

She was asleep by the time the shaking stopped. Now, at nearly 5am, i knew if i stayed the night i wouldn't get up when i needed to so i set a glass of water and an orange next to Her bed, covered Her with blankets, and kissed Her goodbye before pulling myself away..."

Dirty Girl.

How do I feel about my slaves?

There is a common misconception that the dominatrix always has a disdain for men or her bottoms in general. Personally, I don’t enjoy playing with people I don’t like. I would rather play with someone I enjoy spending time with, have similar interests to, and who deserves the time and attention I spend with my play partners. How I do feel about my slaves then? Here are some random thoughts that came to mind…


I require their obedience and earn their respect.
I respect their discipline and encourage their growth.
I correct their mistakes and help them expand their strengths.
I accept them and understand their needs.
I simplify their lives and help them learn to focus their energy.
I learn to communicate my desires in teaching them to communicate theirs.
I feel grateful for their service and entitled to their offerings.
I show them their greatest fears, as well as their ability to overcome them.
I appreciate the amazing things they take in order to bring me pleasure.
I delight in their desire to serve me and attempt to meet their needs in return.
I enjoy their apprehension and nervous energy.
We teach each other to live in the moment.
I love them without being in love.

Kitten sucking off my latex hand.

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A little mobile naughtiness for you.

50 Kinky Terms added !

I have included my personal dictionary for those of you who need to know what all this kinky jargon means. There is a little color thrown in for those of you who do. Its informative without being too technical. I will add to this as time allows, so check back for new terms. Enjoy!

What's the inside of a dungeon look like?

People always imagine a black-walled basement with chains and eye bolts. My vision is more playful and vibrant than "dark" or "evil". It's like my own perverted 'chocolate factory'. When I have more time I'll give you a full tour of the studio, and why I designed each room the way it is. For now, off to Pervyland I go.

Rubber Ball 2006

"The Rubber Ball is confirmed for 7th October and after the overwhelming success of last year's event this will again be held at SeOne in London Bridge.

The Expo is confirmed for 7th & 8th October at The Barbican Exhibition Centre.

Torture Garden is confirmed for 6th October.

The theme for this year is 'Stage and Screen'.

More Info will be added soon."

Yea! I am finalizing plans for my attendant and wardrobe, and there may even be a certain saucy, tear-loving little nymph joining us. It should prove to be a rather interesting week in London. I am slick with anicipation.

Email and site feeds active.

Enjoy!

'Educational Sessions'

Crimson rivers of slave juice always bring a smile to my lips and a swivel to my hips. I was frothy with excitement about my class today, nothing like the smell of Technicare in the morning. It is always a pleasure helping someone to understand the mechanics of a new kink, so I spent the morning helping a prodomme brush up on her needle play. This mistress has always been respectful of my time and play space. She always offers compensation for classes on skills she is asking about for commercial use. I appreciate that sort of respect, so I relish helping her develop new peversions. I know she will execute them with grace and professionalism as well, so I am never concerned about putting new skills in the hands of someone who will abuse them. We were working on 'slutboy', our resident studio bitch. He is a good boy with a wide range of pervy interests,however that is a whole other entry.

I am always a little stressed before an instructional session as I do not want to leave anything out or give misinformation. You should have seen me before the 'Cunt Torture' class at Kinkfest a few weeks back. I was giving a demo on how to be a real cunt, good thing I have devoted slaves and understanding friends.(Muah!) This morning was no such madness, it was easy, peasy pie. I covered the basics of sterilization, insertion ,cross contamination, positions to hold both hands and the needles, corking, lanclets and clean up. She did a fantastic job! Her first needle slid in slowly, with a reserved edginess that made it hurt all the more. It was delicious to watch the dynamic between the nervous bottom and the protective Mistress. Him chewing his lip in anticipation, her holding her breath for concentration and accuracy. Yum. I thrive being able to assist in that sort of energy exchange.

In a lifestyle setting players teach each other new skills and trade play styles freely. I do this as well, and adore trading evil ideas with fellow perverts. There are many classes available and socializing opportunities for meeting like minded pervs to 'show you the ropes'. I feel that if another professional mistress is seeking to learn a new skill she should utilize her personal friends, find a workshop or be prepared to compensate another professional for her time and expertise. I am not of the 'don't train the competition' mind set, however I am also not going to train another professional without compensation of some kind for my efforts.

Thanks Veronica for being such a gem. Good luck with the pointy stuff!

Needles in the morning

What a delightful morning...Details a bit later.

Bound Medical Gimp

This is a still from a really raunchy video I did last summer with gimp 23. The video was a medical scenario that featured piss enemas, catheter and piss play, humiliation and bandage bondage. Enjoy this while I pop out for some pampering...

I have been locked in the house for the last week getting this little baby ready for you. Today is one of the most beautiful days of the year so I have opted to move out on the porch. This weather is making me want to throw on some spandex, grab a gimp and hit the hiking trails. It is breathtaking... green and fresh with the smell of new blossoms.

Testing the new tag feature.

Please be patient as I try and make your browsing experience more pleasurable. Multiple posts are possible.

Dish Gloves- My first rubber.

When I was a mini perv back, 'deep in the heart of Texas', I longed for all things shiny, slippery and wet. I was completely enamored with the feel of my chalky, yellow rubber dishwashing gloves. I just adored dressing up and pretending I was 'Lucy' doing the house work. 'Ricky' was always in trouble. Somethings never change. I came across these delicious little pieces of artwork today and could not resist. I want an entire set for my polka dot and nun laden kitchen. They are pervtastic!

Humiliation and cocksucking audio

Face-fucking with a humiliation piggie we will call "dilbert". If you listen closely, you can here me dick-slapping his face. (I especially enjoy his slobbery "thank you daddy". ) It is always interesting to listen to a scene after the fact. I can just taste the contempt in my voice during parts of this little clip...Good 'ole dilbert. Last time I saw this little piggie, kitten and I threw lunch meat at him. He was not pleased. Imagine his chagrin when I made him concoct a "bologna pussy" and have his way with it. There is something about lunch meat and lube that is inherently wrong.

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• Audio
• Humiliation

'In the bag' with kitten.

Here is a little gem from a late night fuck session with pussycat. What you are hearing is the the phone stuck in the rebreather bag her head is in. She is getting sport fucked by yours truly, in a rather unladylike manner. I should mention she was sleeping when I slipped in the room with a friend, a phone and a bag. When she stays over I require her to sleep nude and chained to the foot of the bed, in a kidskin leather collar. This reinforces her place as my slave and sexy little fucktoy. She must remain open and available for me to enjoy anytime I like. Here she is a little sleepy at first but perks up pretty quickly as she gets fucked.

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• kinky_sex

Patrick Califia has heart attack.

He is at home resting , however he has no health insurance for follow up care. Patrick Califia is a prolific S/m author who has always been one of my heros. His writings are some of the most authentic honest looks at our lifestyle I have ever had the pleasure of reading. His fiction inspires me, makes me wet, and has lead to more than a few wonderfully intense experiences throughout my life. I plan to do what I can to help, please extend your support as well.

Cards and wishes for speedy recovery can be sent here:

Patrick Califia
2215-R Market Street #261
San Francisco, CA 94114

Donations can be sent through paypal to his email address - patcalifia@aol.com.

Here are some of his books, I reccomend Sensuous Magic to everyone.I have jerked off countless times to Doc and Fluff. They are edgy and real with hot fantasy elements that you can taste.

Califia Books- My Fav Smut.

Vacation pics

Last year I rented a cabin out in the mountains with some friends of mine. We spent 5 days playing, fucking and shooting. This was at about 8am, there was thick fog everywhere and steam coming off the hot tub.It was so surreal.

Pics from Pho Van (Lunch)

I was illustrating to my saucy friend today that I am able to post naughtiness from anywhere. Even down her shirt at lunch. I LOVE mobile bloggging. Imagine the possibilities. This is an exhibitionists wet dream. For now enjoy the boobs.

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Stockroom buys Syren!

This is going to be good. Stockroom is my absolute favorite general BDSM supplier. They have a little of everything and their merchandise is top quality for its price. When I ran my own store we carried a nice selection of their toys and personal toy bag has atleast a couple dozen products they carry. I am glad Syren is going to a company with such great customer service. I am sure it will become much more widely distributed and feature a nice selection of designers.





AVN.com
Web Exclusive News April 13, 2006


2006-04-12
Stockroom.com Acquires Syren
By: Thomas J. Stanton
Posted: 3:10 pm PDT 4-12-2006

LOS ANGELES - The adult toy company Stockroom.com has recently acquired Syren, a manufacturer of couture latex designs. Stockroom.com currently manufactures its own line of BDSM and Fetish gear, accounting for approximately 30% of the products the company sells. With the new acquisition of the Syren line, that percentage will increase.

When Syren owner Andy Wilkes, who founded the latex/fetish couture label over 20 years ago, decided to leave Syren to pursue other activities in digital arts, he said he wanted to leave his company in capable hands that would be sure to carry on Syren’s reputation. After discussions between Wilkes and Stockroom.com founder Joel Tucker, the two company heads decided that they could join forces.

Syren is a recognized brand among both fetish fashion enthusiasts and filmmakers who have counted on the company to produce costumes for films such as Batman, Catwoman and Mr. and Mrs. Smith. The new management plans to retain Syren’s entire production team.

"Andy has retired from day-to-day involvement in this business,” said Tucker, “but we have discussed working together on custom designs in the future, and I do expect that will happen. The door remains open with Andy."

To helm this new growth, as well as Syren’s Beverly Blvd. retail site, Stockroom.com has brought on Byron Knight to act as Managing Director of Syren. Knight assures, “Syren’s retail and wholesale operations will continue undisturbed, and will be expanded. We plan to keep Syren well-managed and well-stocked, and we expect that the clientele will fall in love all over again with Syren.”

Even before the new Syren acquisition, Stockroom.com was already going through new growth. This month the company also launched a redesigned Stockroom.com website with a host of new features, including their long-awaited affiliate program, shareable Wishlists, eCards, LiveChat Customer Service, and the KinkWire Celebrity-Moderated Community Forum.

J. Mysterioso, Stockroom’s Production Manager, says, “This is truly a situation of the whole being greater than the sum of the parts. We’re looking forward to creating new designs that will incorporate the best of both worlds”.

First 'Official' entry!

Welcome to DF, fellow pervies!

Welcome to my kinky little nook. We will be slithering through all sorts of slick fetish info in this blog. You will gain some insight into the life of a professional pervert, poly-hedonist, and sexual gourmet otherwise known as me, Betka Schpitz. I will cover BDSM and fetish, vanilla sex and sex politics. The subject matter will include interviews, commentary, how to articles, and anecdotes to give you a better understanding of what S/m is all about. This will also be a detailed, perverted account of my naughty life including photos, audio and maybe even a little video. I hope you will find it fun, informative and inspiring for your own endeavors.

• Hot Dyke Porn: For those of you that were looking for hot dyke porn its been combined with my femdom content at http://www.betkaschpitz.com. This site used to feature my hardcore lesbian BDSM content in a members section. I opted to make it a free kinky resource for you instead.

• Upload Photos: Feel free to upload a picture (yours or anything R-rated that represents your interests) to our map. This is a great way to be a part of the site and see who else is reading. You can do this easily with an anonymous email and picture. I adore being able to see who's reading.

• Posts before April 12th: These have been pulled from personal diaries and inside my member’s sites. Please note that, while they will give you some idea of topics to be covered, they are not an accurate representation of what is to come. Think of them as a little back story for you to enjoy. This goes double for 'grammarphiles'! It shouldn’t be too painful, however, if you have a 'fetish' for grammar and spelling please go here and leave the kinky stuff to me.

• Categories: Blogger does not support categories, so I have included a third party site in the side bar on the right. Click your favorite subjects under the 'Category' link for a list of posts. If anyone has found a better solution please email to me.



Stay Slick!
Betka Schpitz

kitten enticing me into bed.

Eros Lube

Ok so Latex fetishists that I know have long been aware of a real crowd pleaser called Eros Pjur. Peep this:


http://www.avn.com/index.php?Primary_Navigation=Articles&Action=View_Article&Content_ID=264264

In other news I have just been too damn busy to get over here. A short list:
*Mixing-breakbeat,electroclash, industrial and straight up booty music!
*Wrestlemania-not kidding. It was hilarious and I can not wait to watch the trainwreck again.
*Kinkfest-where to even begin with this action packed weekend?
*Torturing and training My sexy slave kitten
*electrocuting hot girls...
*beading like a mofo-made 30 pokies in a couple days. Ready to "launch".
*writing-mostly web stuff
*watching the Sopranos, first season. Havent seen it since it first aired. It is is GOOOOOD. Thanks Mr Ronabell.

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