.xxx rant

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Now I dont know about you guys , especially my friends with children but I am more than a little peeved that it is somehow my responsibility to monitor what other peoples kids are doing on the internet. Personally I dont think underage kids should have full, unsupervised access to the internet. Hello...anyone heard of molestation and rape? While I agree wholeheartedly that measures should be taken to ensure underage kids arent accessing hardcore porn, I do not believe it is my responsibility as a pornographer to babysit other peoples children. I dont have kids yet, and with good reason. I do not want the responsibility of raising them at this point in my life, that means mine or other peoples. I am not sure where personal responsibility fell by the way side, but it is a sad state of affairs. I propose that a .kid domain be added that has only children friendly sites and then parents can set their computers to a g rating. That is if ,for some reason, they can not figure out the multitude of "net sitter" applications currently available. I for one resent that fact that since the internet has become the new babysitter I am supposed to be responsible for other peoples children.
Schpitz out.

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What makes a great Mistress?

I frequently have my slaves share their ideas of what makes a 'great slave'. I have decided turn about is fair play and came up with this, in no particular order.

1. Integrity.
If the woman you are about submit to has no personal integrity it devalues your gift. It is not unreasonable to expect the Mistress to be honest, forth coming, sincere, ethical and genuinely interested in your well being.

2. Imagination
A Mistress is in charge of weaving complex scenarios that involve countless emotional and physical situations. She must have a good imagination in order to keep the subordinate fully engaged and present whilst getting her point across. It is imperative that the slave never feel as though the two of you are simply going through the motions. Imagination can go along way into keeping things fresh while refreshing classic expectations.

3. Confidence
In order to truly lead your bottom it is very important that you have a strong sense of self. Confidence in your abilities, appearance and pervy prowess are a must. If you feel as though thigh high boots and a sexy perfume give you that extra boost by all means, go for it! When you are speaking to your slave your expectations must be crystal clear and you must have no question in your tone.

4. Curiosity.
A natural curiosity enables the Mistress to delve deeply into your mind and kinks. She should enjoy exploring your body and mind enthusiastically. Examining you and your every secret excites her. This curiosity will deepen the level of connection as she probes further into you. A curios mind also tends to research new play styles and activities as opposed to holding to the same patterns over time.

5. Education.
Not in the traditional sense though that does certainly help. A Mistress who is skilled must have knowledge. She should possess the knowledge not only of how to do various activities but also what to do in the event if an emergency during those things. Safety techniques as well as technical skill. The ideal Mistress should constantly strive to improve and expand her methods.

6. Empathy.
A Mistress must be able to understand what someone else is experiencing. There should be an almost psychic connection to what she is doing and how she is interacting with her bottom. Some people believe it is necessary to start at the bottom and work your way up to achieve this.

7. A sense of humor.
It is important to remember that this is supposed to be fun. Stern verbal domination and protocol definitely have their place in BDSM. A strong sense of humor can make an intense experience cross all emotional fields and really expand the scene. This can be exercised through entertaining bondage, predicament situations, humiliation, and used to make more mundane tasks more enjoyable for the dominant to watch. It is also important to keep a sense of humor in case something should not go as planned.

8. Challenging (mentally and physically).
It is very important that the relationship between a Mistress and her charge be in a constant state of evolution. I believe in order to do that is important to be able to find a balance of where a bottoms limits lie and play with those. This is where the most important times during a scene are for me. Expanding and playing with limits, finding out where the boundaries are and why, how it can be utilized and cultivated.

9. Style.
Every Mistress should have her own personal style through demeanor, attire, verbally and discipline. This is what sets you apart from all other dominants. While it is important to watch, read and learn from others it is cardinal to be sure and infuse your skills with your own brand of kink.

10. Communication
Two way communications is very important in keeping with a consensual and mutually beneficial partnership. This is especially true when playing with power exchange. The Mistress should be able to clearly communicate her desires and expectations to you. She should also expect the same from you and be able to discuss and negotiate your limits and expectations thoroughly. Anything less is not consensual.

Is Professional Domination authentic?

The dynamics in a professional session can be just as “real” as a non paid lifestyle encounter if you visit someone reputable, who enjoys her craft. Personally, when I am doing a professional session the tribute paid by My clients is to cover the time and expense of being a very well equipped, outfitted and educated player. These things have taken years to collect and can be very costly. They are not paying simply for the privilege of playing with Me, they are reserving time in My training schedule that would otherwise be spent training My personal slaves. The reason personal slaves do not pay me a monetary tribute is that in exchange for their training they help me with a myriad of tasks in My life and businesses. They exchange their time and skills for Mine. The way that I keep the dynamic “sincere” is by only seeing those bottoms who have the same interests I do. That means that when I am enacting a scene I am using My true passions, kinks, a perversions as the driving force, not the monetary compensation. This is the way that Myself and any other reputable Dominatrix that I know approaches her business. My advice is to do your research and only try and connect with someone who has a similar policy of being more concerned about compatibility than credit cards.

Lecturing at Pacific University

I am so busy these next couple of weeks. Let the insanity begin. I will be talking with a group of graduate students who are persuing psychology. There will be a couplde of other kinky folks as well. We are going to be explaining the difference between 'safe, sane and consensual BDSM' and domestic violence. We are hoping to help them to dicipher and give advice to perverts. I am not going to have alot of control over the direction of the lecture, more of a question and answer type of thing. I wish I had time to present the Risk Aware Consensual Kink model, which rings a little more clearly with me. I am going to pass out some business cards and hopefully make some nice contacts with upcoming therapists in the Portland area.

So today I have a session at 10 AM, out at 1130. Downtown for lecture at noon. Site meeting at 4. St Patty's Day somethin somethin tonight. Preparing over the weekend for next week. Wed night is Cirque, Thursday I fly to Vegas at the crack of dawn, (overnight session)back Friday afternoon, Kinkfest starts Friday night. Thinking about hitting SEAF for a couple hours Sat.I really enjoyed SEAF when I went year before last and would really like to see the exhibit , if only for a few hrs.. Anywho, I want to make some of the classes here at Kinkfest on Sat so not 100% about this. Then Sunday I teach a class on cunt torture and stunt cock for Nina Hartley.

I tell you, a perverted superhero's work is never done.
Busy B

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late night kitten

Phone pic of drunk kitten about to do something dirty. I am a lucky perv.