Frugal Kink: The 25$ toy bag.

I was teaching some boys a few new tricks last weekend and it occurred to me that I should include toy bag shopping list here. I wanted to make it affordable enough for pervs next door to be able to grab the items on a whim. I have improvised similar toy bags for impromptu scenes countless times. This is a quick list and I am sure to leave things out, so if you have suggestions for the kinksters on a budget, feel free to pass them on here. Be prepared to go exploring the local dollar,thrift, craft, grocery, hardware, auto stores and pharmacies. Use this list as a general guideline and let your kinky imagination run wild. I recommend hitting the dollar store first if your locale has one. Mix and match the items below to meet your interests.

• Rope – A good basic rope is 5/8 nylon for bondage. It is readily available at all hardware stores and some groceries. Clothesline ( Which works great for cbt/genitorture) is readily available as well. Clothesline can cut off circulation easily when used for bondage.

• Clothespins - Clothespins are used for a variety of torments all over the body. When combined with vibrators and corporal discipline the possibilities are endless. You can dye clothespins any color you wish with RIT dye to create a more custom, finished look. These usually come in packs of 100. Other clips: There are tons of different clips available in your average sundry store. Look around and be creative.

• Latex Gloves - Gloves are important for sexual health and safety. A latex glove can be cut and used in place of dental dam, if you are in a bind. They are used for sensation play and can be used to aid in “Dr” role-plays as props. Everyone recognizes the distinct snap of a latex glove and for many kinksters , that sound is all it takes to get the pervy juices flowing. For those on the serious budget I recommend heading to your local beauty supply store for these. You an get them in single pairs for .25-.50. REMEMBER TO CHANGE YOUR GLOVES WHEN MOVING FROM ASSHOLE TO PUSSY. (Giving your lover a dose of vaginitis is not the way to inspire future rendezvous.)


• Candles - White unscented paraffin candles are best suited for wax play. They are in most grocery stores with household supplies. (On the ethnic aisle with the Jesus candles you can find the tall glass pillar candles, this wax feels great going on but the candles are a bit messy. They also tend to collect a lot of soot on the glass and in the wax so be careful if your working around light colored fabric or carpet.) Always test the heat of the wax on your inner arm before dripping it on your partner. Smooth a thin layer of baby oil on the bottom before play for easy removal. To remove wax from fabric: Use ice to harden the wax and scrape off as much as possible with a dull blade. Then place a brown paper bag over it, (a section without any printing on it, the ink can bleed) and apply a warm iron. Hold it for a couple of seconds and you will see the wax melt and adhere to the sack. Repeat until it’s completely removed.
• Plastic Wrap – This stuff is great for bondage, wax play, and is better than nothing, if you do not have a dental dam. It is available in many different colors. I prefer the kind sold for packing and moving; it usually has a handle for easy application.

• Rubber Bands - These little babies work for bondage from balls to boobs and a variety of nasty sensations. You can use them in conjunction with clips and other toys to add tension or vibration, as well as keep things like rope and laces tidy. Extra think ones are especially nice for CBT.

• Duct Tape - I should own stock in this stuff for all the miles I have used of it. Duct tape is a very versatile bondage tool that can be used for mummification, arm binders, gags, and attaching someone to just about anything. I find it works best in conjunction with saran wrap for easy removal. Use extra caution during removal should it be in direct contact with the bottoms skin. It will rip layers of skin off, if you are not careful. Baby oils works well to help remove the adhesive. Always have scissors on hand when playing with tape. It can be very restrictive and difficult to remove.


• Ice - Do not forget this inexpensive kinky classic.

• Leather belt - If you don’t already have one hit your local thrift store for a variety of sizes and leathers. Studs and other adornments cause heavy bruising and are likely to break skin.( That’s not necessarily a bad thing, you just need to be aware of it. I recommend novices stick with a medium width, soft leather belt with no decorations.)

• Wooden Spoons - You can get the in various sizes for next to nothing. They work excellent for spanking and genital torment.


• Plastic Spatulas - A little more evil than the wooden spoon at a compatible price, these babies are easy to sterilize and available in a wide variety of sizes and colors.

• Wooden Dowels – These work for everything from canes to spreader bars depending on their girth. Thin ones can be held together with a rubber band for a nasty little toy. DO NOT USE THEM FOR SUSPENSION BONDAGE.


• Brushes – Brushes can be used for paddles and sensation toys depending on their size and bristle type. I have an arsenal of brushes that include everything from soft baby bristles to coarse horse grooming tools. Electric brushes create an interesting sensation, be careful of catching loose skin in bottle cleaners. Ouch!

• Wooden Skewers – Secure them at one end with a couple of rubber bands for an interesting percussion toy. They are also great for scratching and sensation play.


• Handkerchiefs – Use for blindfolds, gags or wet one end for a stingy little makeshift whip.

• Pantyhose – These can be used for bondage, ( I especially like using the ends as bondage mitts.) makeshift hoods, and making disposable zentai outfits. They are cheap and available in a variety of colors.

• Fabric, fur and scratchy stuff – Use your imagination to find all sorts of delicious sensation toys. Pieces of fur or satin, scratchy kitchen tools, emery boards, tooth brushes, cocktail forks….I could go on and on.

• Condoms – I won’t hop on my soapbox about safer sex, you should all know my feelings on that by now. These little babies are good for all sorts of stuff including bondage mitts and dental dams.

• Hot creams – tiger balm, icy hot and the like. Be sure and have some witch hazel on hand for fast removal should it get too intense. Washing with soap and water helps a little but once it is absorbed into the skin, it’s a long hard road out of hell. Always use a tiny dot to start, and build up from there. These creams are long lasting and you can capsize your fuck boat fast if you are not careful. Cinnamon oil is also great for this but you must use extra caution, it can burn delicate tissues. I recommend giving your self a dose of any cream/oil you intend to use on a partner.

• Fruits/Veggies – Use these for makeshift dildos. I recommend using a condom over any food being inserted. Potatoes can be carved to make some rather interesting sex toys. Let’s leave figging for another time but ginger is an excellent addition to this category.

My friends laugh at my ability to turn even the most mundane household tools into deviant devices of vice. Try it now. Take a look around and use your noggin’ to find 5 “pervertables” within reach, it is easier than you think.

News of the wierd.

I recieved an email from "Fanny" this morning telling me that some strange woman called asking for me last night. She was calling from an LA number and asking strange and often times rude questions regarding Fanny's gender.She hung up when she was questioned about her reason for calling.

I called the number back Fanny sent and no one answered, the first 5 times. (I am nothing if not tenacious.) When I finally reached the woman, she had a Jamacian accent and had no idea who I was. I asked if someone else could have used her phone last night and she assured me that was impossible. The wierdest things is I have NEVER used Fanny's phone number as a contact. This is very strange. Someone suggested perhaps it was an internet wierdo but I think even the strangest stalker would call my number (that is easily located) before contacting someone who used to serve me. (Stalker's take note: I am an excellent marksman with a redneck background. Careful.)

I am unsure what to make of it. The woman suggested that perhaps the phone number came up wrong in her phone. That seems a little too convenient for such a strange call. The fact that the person would be asking Fanny about her gender is the most bizarre thing of all. Welcome to my wierd, wierd world.

My missing webmistress:
I am starting to get very concerned about Steen. She hasn't contacted me the entire 10 days since the site went live. I have sent emails, ims, myspace, left a couple of messages last week and called without leaving messages a few times. No response. We have important business to handle and it is unlike her not to return important calls and messages. If any of you peeps in LA LA land know what's going on please email me. Steen if you read this call me ASAP.

Things will get naughty around here soon I promise.

Help wanted: Marketing and video editing.

I need one or two people who have a working knowledge of the adult internet industry for some part time marketing work. I would prefer a recommendation from someone I know. This will include pic posts, forums, banner and link exchange, article submissions, etc. (TGP and MGP experience would be a plus.) I will need a video editor soon as well. The editor should be local to Portland. (Marketing can be done from anywhere.) They must be able to meet deadlines and I would prefer if it is someone who I don't know socially. This is not a call for slave labor, I want this be a simple work relationship with no strings.It is a paid job with negotiable rates depending on experience and availability.

Send all inquiries to mistress@betkaschpitz.com with previous experience and rates.

Thank you!


PS. Things will return to pervy goodness soon. I am in the middle of moving, giving the studio a facelift and trying to track down my webmistress who is MIA. It's going to be a week full of working until the wee hours. Friday evening I plan to take a new slut out for a test drive. By then I will be back on track and have some sordid tales to share for sure.

Sugasm #37

I recently discovered a great site that features a list of recent sex blogs submitted by the bloggers themselves. The deal is they submit their best post from the week and if it is approved you post a link to all the topics on your personal blog. This is my first week. I would like to hear reader thoughts on this. If I continue, I will post their link list once per week.

I had a fantastic weekend both professionally and personally. The kink was steaming hot and the personal time was a much needed break from moving and studio work. I'll put together a recap soon for your voyeuristic enjoyment. Until then, Sugasm #37:

This week’s best of the sex blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Want in Sugasm #40? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the linklist within a week and you’re all set.

NSFW Pics

HHNT!!!!!! (http://melanaise.blogspot.com)


I Feel Myself, I Really Do : ) (http://eroticandy.blogspot.com)

Porn Week Vacation (http://www.internetisforporn.com)

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships

The Anticipation (http://wanklog.blogspot.com)

Being Submissive (http://ww2.alternativealbany.com/bdsm/)


Late night deviant (http://xxgraciexx.blogspot.com)

Mmm Tentacle-y (http://shayssexcolumn.blogspot.com)

My Orgasm and Sexual Desire Secrets (http://totalsensuality.blogspot.com)

RANT: On the Rag with The Goddesses (http://cuntinglinguist.blogspot.com)

Self image is a wonderful thing, most of the time (http://seanandmel.blogspot.com)


Tag - Past Love - Story 2 - Self-discovery and Healing (http://dawnndirty.blogspot.com)

Those damn slutty bisexuals (http://www.dangerousfemme.com)

Sex News

Bush for “Products and Services,” Not Birth Control (http://www.taratainton.com)


Gay Gamers are Coming Out of the Closet (http://sugarjoy.com)

Next Door Nikki on Jerry Springer (http://myhotbox.blogspot.com)

There’s Got To Be A Joke Here Somewhere (http://tgp.com)

BDSM and Fetish

Guessing Games (http://eroticaetcetera.com/blog/)


How about a cookie (http://redvelvetropeburn.com)

Isabella’s Eyes - Part IV (http://nyc-urban-gypsy.blogspot.com)

Spanking at t’mill (http://www.spankingwriters.com)



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It's getting hot in here.

Portland is not supposed to be this uncomfortable. Ick. Luckily I had a fantastic session to brighten this muggy afternoon. I had a very naughty bondage and sensory play session with a newbie. It was tense and I used a lot of ice to combat the heat. He sounded like a cheerleader on game day, it was entertaining and oh so very hot. When the session was done he lay there for a good 10 minutes saying "wow" over and over again. He was having a hard time opening his eyes and his joints were all locked up. 1 more for team Schpitz. I don't have the typing stamina to give all the gory details but it included nipple pumping, throat fucking ( with my latex clad hand), cbt, flogging, ball stretching and ice play. Rawr.

Getting ready for an interesting scene that is going to involve 2 dominatrixes, 1 female slave, 1 crossdressing bondage slut, and 6 "vanilla" men. Oh look here is one of the players calling now...

Castrate rapists? Why yes, that sounds like a fine idea!

Well, so it's not actually castration but I am so amused I can hardly type. Just in time for my birthday, is the 1 year anniversary of the invention of the "Rape Condom". (It was announced August 31, 2005.)It was designed by South African inventor Sonette Ehlers to help put an end to the huge rape/HIV crisis in Africa.

"The device, made of latex and held firm by shafts of sharp barbs, can only be removed from the man through surgery which will alert hospital staff, and ultimately, the police, she said.

It also reduces the chances of a woman falling pregnant or contracting AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases from the attacker by acting in the same way as a female condom."

( The above was taken from this article.)

I think it is about time women were armed with something, and an Anime-worthy cunt full of hooks and barbs seems like a nice temporary solution. Perhaps the idea of pricks coming out with a spiky new friend attached will cut down on date rapes at colleges across the land.

There are those saying its going to piss off the attackers and get the women injured. While that may be true in a small amount of cases, I think most of those cowardly pigs will be sobbing in a corner crying when they realize what has happened to their precious little nub.

I read they are expecting it to be on shelves by the end of the year and it should cost slightly more than a regular condom. It may be worn for up to 24 hours and it is easily and quickly inserted, similar to a tampon.

Donate to the company making them here:
http://www.rapestop.net

More info:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anti-rape_female_condom

I would love to hear what you guys think about this, I am still reading up on it.

HPV vaccine for women!

Ok, I read this briefly and have not had enough time to research it but it sounds very promising. If you have read my previous posts on safer sex, you know how I feel about responsibility in that area. This could stop the spread of the strains that cause cervical cancer. That is the most dangerous thing about this disease and causes many deaths every year. It is widespread due to a lack of proper testing and safer sex education. I'll post more thorough information as I have time to research the vaccine properly. (Please do your own independent look into this, I am not a medical professional.)It is a shame it's not effective for men at this time. I hope they find a solution to that quickly; men are often carriers without visible symptoms. When women go in for a pap smear they will often times show abnormal in their results regardless of whether there are visible growths. A special seperate test is required to determine HPV status. Men are rarely tested for it unless they have warts, this further compounds the spread of the disease because they do not know they are carriers.

ps. For all of you oral outlaws, please remember there are strains that go into your throat. (Just like herpes.) Use condoms and the like. Latex IS sexier than a scabby wart filled throat.

( How's that for a safe sex campaign? I bet the "after school special" writers are calling me right now.)

http://www.avn.com/index.php?Primary_Navigation=Articles&Action=View_Article&Content_ID=272208

AIM is the adult industry STD testing company for those who might not know.

BetkaSchpitz.com explicit section live!

Peep this: http://www.betkaschpitz.com

Finally, the day has arrived! (Whew.) I was not expecting to have to handle the billing company fiasco myself but I am glad that I did. Once I got on it with the new company it took us less than a week and a half. You know what they say, if you want something done right... I am learning that more and more with this latest redesign.

I will be doing a lot of tweaking on the site and adding bonus sets all week. I also need to reactivate several of the sets we had to turn off for the nut jobs at the other billing company.

I would love to hear feedback from members old and new about the site's latest incarnation.

Paige Richards is a sexpot.

She and her beau breezed through town last night for dinner and drinks. She is a sexy, sassy, business savvy little minx and I adore her. It certainly doesn't hurt that when I see her we do things like this:













Such a delicious morsel of tasty goodness. We are plotting a shoe fetish video for later this year; she has over 130 pairs. Drool.

See more of her work at http://www.paigebound.com

"Those damn slutty bisexuals"

Calm down “P.C.” patrol. I am one of the aforementioned ambisexuals. I was reading through some of my message groups this morning and found a discussion about why there is so much animosity towards bisexuality in the dyke community. This bemused me somewhat, as I have never been the “right kind of dyke” due to my long time love affair with the cock. Did I just say that? Yes, yes I did. What I should have said is “ I enjoy sexual relations with both man and women.” That would have been more ladylike though definitely over-simplified.


At what point is someone bisexual? If a straight boy holds it in his mouth but doesn’t suck it, is he? (I know, I know this is serious business. Bad Betka.) I long for the day when we find more interesting ways to define ourselves than our gender, sexual orientation and race. For now, if ya love the kitty and the cock, your “bi”.

I realized I had sexual fantasies about women from a very early age. I would think almost exclusively of girls when I masturbated. (I find this to be a valuable tool in recognizing and meeting my sexual needs even now.) I was not “out” because I did not see any reason to rock the boat; I knew I was leaving Texas and that I would not be maintaining relationships with the bulk of my family for unrelated reasons. (They are well meaning but closed minded people who have a lot of drama going down. Most of them now know I am pitching for both teams.) It really wasn't their business who I was fucking (fantasizing about) and since I wasn’t having problems adjusting to being a nasty little femme faggot, I thought it better left alone. I never viewed it as “wrong”, though I was intuitive enough to realize my southern mother was not going to be pleased to find out her little angel was indeed, a diesel femme. I felt bad for her and the others like her whose intolerance was obviously a sign of some instability and insecurity elsewhere.

My interest in boys/men was pretty minimal outside of my friends and the occasional androgynous, bad boy who might strike my fancy. I can count the number of male lovers I have had intercourse with on a little more than one hand.( A couple of these were long term fuckfests.) The ladies…I wouldn’t begin to guess. Let’s just say I have pleasured a lot of women in a number of ways. I see many possibilities when I imagine who I might settle down into old age with.

People were really getting into this discussion on the women’s list about bisexuality being good/bad. Apparently bisexuals are viewed as being promiscuous and indecisive, while waiting to bait and switch the poor dykes cruising for ladies. (Hello paranoia.) It is amazing that people can glean so much from someone’s sexual orientation. The amount of assumptions from the same people who have had to work hard to overcome judgment from Hetro-conservatives is astonishing. (What is feminist about breaking other women down for their choices?) They were attacking people’s morals, integrity, motivations and lifestyle based on ignorance and intolerance over their orientation. Hey wait a minute, doesn’t that sound like those fag bashers we don’t like? Just a little food for thought.

In other news, I managed to do something awful to my shoulder and wrist. I get a weird swelling in my right wrist if I have a lot of back to back playing, fucking or S/m. Ms Kim if your listening I need a rub down, and I would do just about anything within reason to get it.

Personal ads

Time for some tips on answering personal ads. ( And actually getting responses.) I have enjoyed using personal ads in the past for convenience and the ability to target specific interests. Contrary to popular belief, I am a bit of a hermit. I enjoy spending time one on one with my friends and family when I am not traveling or organizing events. I have created a comfortable studio and nourishing home environment so I enjoy being there. I do not really like traditional bars and nightclubs. Personals sites are wonderful when I am looking for a new play partner. I can find other people who enjoy private play and share my extremely gourmet sexual proclivities. I generally take on one new serious personal play partner every couple years. This has given me quite a bit of experience in reviewing responses to personal ads. I hope these simple suggestions will help you when dabbling in such pursuits. Some quick and dirty dos and don'ts:

Answering a personal ad

~ Read the person's ad and profile. This means actually familiarizing yourself with their interests and expectations. If you are not willing to take the time to find out what trips their trigger why should they spend time responding to you?

~• Be concise. Initially you need to ascertain whether they are interested. Give a brief description of why you wrote them, mutual interests, previous experience and do not assume familiarity or intimacy. When I say brief I mean less than two paragraphs. If you were a movie your response would be the trailer.

~ Do not send freaky notes of love and adoration before you have met. At best what your describing is a physical attraction and lust. It is ridiculous, and reeks of silly internet wankers. Who in their right mind would want to be in a relationship with someone who is professing their complete loyalty and subservience to every leash dangling in the wind? This is not some whimsical fairytale, it is real life. There will be plenty of time for ass-licking ,lovey-dovey talk later.

~ Do not send any erotic photos at all without being asked. It is rude and is akin to "flashing". Stay in your raincoat mr.creepy pants, everyone doesn'’t want to see "“lil jim"”.I am joking a bit but seriously, don't assume that because people are kinky they are interested in participating with you. I do not enjoy random men sending me pictures of the cock and know very few women who do.

~ Do be prepared to send some sort of photo or expect a much lower response rate. People want to know who they are talking to. It is ok to send discreet g rated pictures.

~ Do not embellish in your response the truth will come out. You will look foolish and everyone's time will have been wasted. This includes not being honest with yourself regarding your own needs.

~ Be engaging. This means have something to say. Say it with enough flair to make someone want to continue talking to you. This is not the time to go into a litany of what you hate about this or that, or a long pervy fantasy. This is your golden opportunity to show how witty and entertaining you can be. Remember the saying about first impressions?

~ Do NOT send "cut and paste" mass emails. They are unimaginative and unattractive. Take the time to select people you who are compatible with your interests and limits. Customize your response to individuals who seem like a good fit.. You are not fishing for tuna here, quality over quantity.

Hope this helps someone score the pervert of their dreams.

Busy B

Busy, Busy working on a new billing company. Enjoy a dirty pic while I get things in order.

The insanity that is Craigslist.

Craigslist is always good for a laugh but this one really takes the cake:

"Nice powerful $850 HP P4 Computer traded for 2x bareback girl - m4w
Reply to:
Date: 2006-07-10, 10:05AM PDT


I am moving to Italy and need to get rid of this great computer system. It is powerful with two hard drives and ready to go.
If you are a bareback girl then I will trade this for two times 15-30 min cum dumping.
If you need MS Office 2003 Professional or XP then just add another fuck night per item.
I am a nice gentleman and I am fresh and sporty and also clean and dd free. Got fixed years ago so we don't need to worry.
Ciao! "

So if you fuck him a third time he will throw in an outdated version of Microsoft Office? ( Bareback no less!)Wow. This was from the erotic services section in La La land.

I am working at the studio today, preparing for a major purge of "Stuff". I have a ton of clothes from my old store, retail equipment, as well as dungeon accoutrements I will be disposing of in the next couple of weeks. Ill post a link here to anything relevant.

Hot rubber perverts.

What, you guys scared of a little piss? It's like a ghost town in here.

Luckily, I always find ways to entertain myself. I was up until the wee hours of the morning with Mr. Ronabell and crew. It was the third and final Voodoo Kiss. (Good work Mr. R, it was delectable.S: Your ballerina ensemble was so adorable. Please wear it for random smackdown.)He and I are looking to throw a kinky club night together later this year. Our town needs an injection of kink into its nightlife. There are plenty of play parties, but the club scene, is tumbleweed city.

Where was I? Oh yes, of course. Latex. I finally got to sit down and throw around kinky ideas with two glorious deviants from Seattle. They get all dolled up in hot latex to do filthy things with each other and various other notable pervs. Yum.

Check out their site at http://www.rubberbound.com. I am looking forward to heading up to one of their infamous parties...Especially after hearing about rubber gimp in the basement. ( Packing clips and various torture implements right now.The 21st can not come soon enough.)

Now off to mend my aching head.

My little piss pet

So, my slave kitten sent me this sweet love letter reminiscing about getting piss soaked on Monday. In honor of my recent rant about not being able to say GOLDEN SHOWER on my members site, I decided to share. She is a delightfully dirty little minx. That is one of the many reasons I love her.She has been pissed on before but only once. I have been making her beg for it every since.
Now, onto the good stuff:

Subject:: "I am a dirty slut."

"I practically begged Her Grace to piss on me the other night. I can't quite recall the exact details of how the event cumulated, but I do remember exactly how it felt and what I was thinking.
That may be one of the dirtiest acts I have ever taken part in. FUCK it was so damn sexy and perverted.
I followed Her into the bathroom excitedly, muttering off about how I was so happy and sorry I had fucked up before (speaking of a time when I had the opportunity to be peed on but chickened out of it)
In the bathroom, She told me to sit on the toilet- I did. I was wearing a black rubber mini skirt and a black and purple rubber bra, so no need to undress. I felt like a total pervert. A bit of giggling and testing out positions, then Her Grace lifted Her leg over my left shoulder and let it go..
Her piss was hot, it made me realize how cold my body temperature was as She pushed out stream after stream of piss all over me. My chest, my pussy, my thighs... I couldn't help but start rubbing my clit and masturbating, using Her piss as additional lubricant on my already soaking wet cunt. I remember moaning and gasping, hardly able to believe I'd had the bravery to ask for the privilege of being Her rubber piss pet.

Brief pervery in the studio bathroom. After She finished, She cleaned up and exited as I thanked Her profusely. I was thrilled.
I cleaned up the stray splashes and hopped in the shower in my rubber clothes to wash Her Grace's royal piss off of myself.

That memory will be forever cherished and jerked off to.
Thank You, Your Grace."

What a dirty girl.

Billing for porn in present day USA. (Totally fucked.)

I wish I could hit the gun range today but... there is a lot of kink to capture before Steen goes home. (A smut peddler’s work is never done!)I just want to grab my 45 and release round after round until my hand is callused and my vision blurred. (Into a previously approved little paper target of course.)


I don't even know where to start with this rant. To put it simply, I LOATHE my billing company, the right wing psychos who have waged a battle on consensual sex, and VISA. (I vow to NEVER even own a fucking Visa card. As a matter of fact, I give anyone reading this permission to walk up and slap me across the face if they see me using one. I hate credit cards anyway; they are turning everyone in America into a working slave to the corporations. What ever happened to saving up until you have the cash to buy what you want?)They are so hooked in with the current political administration and their desire to eradicate “dirty pictures” and any sort of kinky sex that I could never support them with a clear conscience. The backroom deal they signed must have left their knees sore for a month. Ok. Sorry. Let me get back on task.

Running an adult site used to be pretty straightforward. (I guess it still is if your shooting bubble gum porn with normal “missionary man” sex… for procreation… and the actors are married… only with the lights out and in night vision.. not on Sunday.) For legality, you pretty much just had to verify the performers age, shoot a pic of their id to hold on file, get a model release, and you are off. Those were the good old days. (Only a couple of years ago actually.) Our puritanical “American moral code” has always had some no no’s: fisting, pissing, shitting and (gasp) penetration with bondage. That is not all inclusive but a good start. Most of the things considered obscene have not been enforced with any real fervor since the Meese commission days.


I have been with my billing company for many years now. Many of the things they are asking us to remove have been on my website the entire time they have been my billing company. Last time I checked, we had 1 chargeback in the last two years. That means we keep a steady flow of members without a lot of extra work for them. When I planned my redesign, I called them. They assured me it would be a simple process that would take minutes to complete. Upon completion of the redesign, they informed me whoever I had spoken to was wrong. I would need to be resubmitted to Visa for approval. This requires a thorough search through your content for inappropriate material. One would think they are looking for obvious things like underage performers, animals, non consensual footage filmed in other countries and the ones listed above that are well documented. No they are looking for things like “extreme violence” (which has no specific guidelines, only some subjective descriptions.) “Flogging” (which they describe as severe beating) “blood” (this means piercing and vampire photos are not ok if there is any blood. INCLUDING FAKE BLOOD.) And the list goes on.

They have sent out the abstract descriptions of violations and expect us to remove any "similar" content. We are going to have to switch companies to keep producing the type of stuff I enjoy and it's going to cost money, time and effort. (All of which are stretched due to my extended trip overseas and recent business changes. I wish this could have waited until Fall.) For those not in the porn business, when you switch billing companies you must get all of your members to sign up again. This means you are back to the drawing board. You can certainly send out emails and specials to regain customers, it is just a lot of extra work. Grrrrrr. Oh yea, and did I mention these pictures are on my other site they are currently billing for? No joke.

So, what sort of things are they asking us to remove?























"The images listed above are examples of the female model being put on a cross. Other galleries that contain this type of content can be found in "Pinky on the Cross 1", "Pinky on the Cross 2" and "Pinky on the Cross 3." Due to regulations set forth by the credit card associations, this is unacceptable. Any content similar in nature must be removed from this site."

This is a set that has been up on my site for at least 3 years. She is being whipped to the point of pink marking with no heavy bruising, bloodletting, or the like. They have been my billing company the entire time this picture has been up. No problem. We moved the entire site to my BetkaSchpitz.com address and now this set is a problem? (It sounds to me like one of Jesus' loyal disciples is now spot checking porn and doesn’t care for the cross.) Notice how it says any “similar content”? What does that mean? Similar in what way exactly? Bondage, Discipline, Clothespins? Grrrr.

Other things that we have been asked to take down have included VacBed photographs, water splashing in the face for brief periods of time, ashing in someone’s mouth, latex sweat suits, and some photos with mild marking. Recently they asked me to take down the words “golden shower” from a text list of my interests. No photograph, just me saying I like to piss on people. Ahhh, the joys of living in a “free” country.

I am planning to meet with an attorney later this year to find out exactly what happens when you move your business overseas. (No, I won’t be moving from Portland anytime soon.)If anyone has a good international “adult” attorney or knows someone in a similar situation, please email me info. I refuse to stop doing what I love because a bunch of uptight moralists decide to make it a little more difficult.

Oh yes, and I’d like to send a shout out to all the assholes responsible at the credit card companies and political offices who have helped make this travesty of our rights possible.

Sexual Liberties of the Professional Dominatrix...(oops)

( This posted incomplete the first time.)

Over the years I have had countless discussions with other women in my industry regarding sexual contact with clients and professional image regarding sexuality. I have found that the enigmatic women who gravitate to this profession all have their own ideas about specific values a "Mistress" should uphold. Some of the women believe that a “true” dominatrix does not engage in any nudity or sexual contact with a client, or show themselves in any state of undress in their advertising. The other side of the fence believes what happens in the dungeon between a Mistress and her client is between two consenting adults and is no one else’s business, and that a dominant may dress(undress) however they like. Those same things carry over into what is considered acceptable for advertising.

When a Mistress allows a professional client sexual liberties, that bottom’s expectations are forever altered. This makes it difficult to maintain any sort of “industry standard” and also places heightened expectations on other Prodommes to provide similar services. I understand why that would piss off women who have worked hard to build and maintain a professional image with clearly defined legal limits. (This keeps our legal ducks in a row, sets client expectation, as well as personal boundaries. It also allows women who don’t want to be classified as “sex workers” to define themselves in a different way.) I have no problem with what other Mistresses are doing in their private dungeons and do not push my boundaries on other Dommes.( I do have expectations of the women renting space from me as that directly affects my business and the studio’s reputation. )

I am able to comfortably communicate my boundaries and desires to clients regardless of their previous experience. If they have seen someone I know to be more permissive (sexually) than I am, I explain to them what I do and do not allow during our negotiations. I would prefer that escorts not mislabel themselves as a “dominatrix” for safety and quality control reasons. A dominatrix should be someone for whom empathy, education and communication are paramount. They should also have the skills and equipment necessary to explore a wide range of fetishes and BDSM play. I have seen very few escorts advertising for BDSM who were well equipped and seemed knowledgeable enough to use the title. ( I have seen a few. Miranda Storm is a great local escort who also offers BDSM. She has more experience than many of our local Domme’s combined,yet she does not advertise herself as a dominatrix. I refer people to her that seem to be seeking a more "sensual" exchange.) In any industry with no regulation the most responsible and successful people will be the ones who regulate themselves. When I say regulate, I mean set standards that work for them to make their career safe, profitable, and enjoyable. Unfortunately, one of the down sides to this is a general tendency to be judgmental towards those who do not meet popular (self imposed) standards and practices.

What standard of sexual conduct or nudity is appropriate for a dominatrix? This is one of the major areas of disagreement between prominent, well-respected professional dominants. Contributing to this dissention is the amount of effort that we have gone through to legitimize and explain our work to the general public. (It seems wasted and lost if “Mistress Slippery Sally” is shoving her royal pussy all over every slave’s face for a quick buck.) That is one way to look at it. I prefer to see slaves who connect with my ideas and interests around BDSM enough to relinquish total control to me. Complete surrender offers no room for expectation. (after a thorough negotiation of course…) Slaves seeking specific sexual acts to entertain them are much better suited for another dominant. That means that their personality would prohibit us from having a session, not their previous sexual history or the business practices of other Dommes. I think focusing on our own business is a wonderful way to separate yourself from people you do not want to be grouped with. Your work should speak for itself and other peoples practices should not enter into it.

An off shoot to this topic is judgment about the use of sexually charged imagery or nudity in advertising, member websites, online diaries, etc. I understand the archetype of the unattainable “Mistress”, a cruel dominatrix who would not conceive to allow a slave to enjoy her body. That is hot and it works for some people all of the time. I would feel like I was playing a role if I channeled that energy. I prefer to have my slaves encapsulated by my real identity instead of a preconceived notion of the “True Dominatrix”. I enjoy role-playing on a limited basis these days. That is because I only enjoy role-playing with active, interesting players who can carry their end and most people are too shy or serious to make it fun in a pro scene. The authenticity comes through because I laugh when something is funny, slap the hell of you if you get sassy and show you new ways to explore deep seated fantasies in a healthy and safe way. I don’t need to project a specific archetype to do these things, they come naturally.

I do not offer nudity because I wouldn’t want people coming to see me based exclusively on the peep show value. I have spent over a decade cultivating my craft and invested a large sum of money learning the skills required to execute it. (If I just wanted to make the money off of my tits, I could have spent a lot more time vacationing!) That being said, I don’t wince at the thought of an erotic image getting out where I am enjoying myself sexually or in a state of undress. It just means I do not spend my time producing that sort of stuff for mass consumption. I would rather have the focus be on my passion for BDSM and fetish exploration.

I started thinking about this during a photo shoot yesterday. It was a brief bondage and ”forced” masturbation scenario with one of my personal play partners. I was planning to dress him in a rubber hood, latex boots and a short cat suit to jerk him off before chastising him in the CB 2000 for a while. It seemed like a sexy glimpse into my personal passions that kinksters interested in my work would enjoy. This is not something I would do in a pro scene; the idea of random cock juice on my hand leaves a lot to be desired. However, I do enjoy it frequently in my private escapades. (At home it is almost exclusively with female slaves because my sexual proclivities lean towards Sapphic sluttery more than man jam. There are some rare exceptions.)

The shoot got me to thinking about conversations I have had with other Mistresses regarding sexuality. People have told me they considered it inappropriate to have pictures of me rewarding kitten with a little pussy licking. “That is not very Mistress like!” ( Never mind the fact that she has only received the pleasure about 3 times in four years. I thought it was the perfect thing to have a friend capture for all eternity. Now she can jerk off to it anytime she likes and we get the added benefit of scratching our exhibitionistic itch. We are perverts after all.) Someone also thought it inappropriate you could see a smidgen of my pussy in a golden shower picture. I have heard that a Mistress should stay aloof to keep things interesting. I think that you should be able to share your ideas and fantasies while retaining whatever sense of privacy feels good for you. I discuss very intimate details about certain parts of my life comfortably and without giving away any of the “magic” of the dominatrix. I could talk all day about fantasies and experiences I have enjoyed without giving away the full bag of tricks. The idea that I would lose some of my allure because someone knows the “real” me is self depreciating. I believe their attraction and desire to serve should get stronger with more information, if it diminishes we were never a good match.


I thought the whole point of a woman being empowered is her ability to make her own decisions focusing on her needs, not the judgment of others. That should include who (if anyone) is allowed to enjoy her nudity and sexual attentions. For now back to prepping the dungeon, word has it there is a “gummi” gathering in store for the evening. I have to get the sheets, straightjackets and sleep sacks prepared.

Rubbery Goodness

Last night started off with an innocent game of Canasta and ended in a tangled mess of rubbery goo. I am not sure how exactly that happens around here , but it comes about more often than not. I think anytime three people put on latex socks for a friendly card game things are bound to get dirty. ( Especially when they are latex toe socks. Note to self: Latex toe socks are at the top of the kinky shopping list.)

We were tossing cards when talk of an enema came up. Always a facilitator, I jumped up and grabbed an enema bottle with a simple, castille solution. Several mini vacations to the restroom later and we were off... Our latex doll was dressed in a black catsuit with a beautiful black and white HW hood. Shiny knee socks were held in place by clever latex sock suspenders. (They are polka dotted and oh so fucking fantastic.)A tight pair of sheath panties made our fuck doll a perverts wet dream of clinical pleasures, available for use in any number of ways. My accomplice was wearing a custom black and white HW catsuit with matching hood,latex toe socks, black pumps and a brand new black butt plug.

I had a blowout with my first ensemble. (Poor catsuit was just at the end of its little life.)So, I opted for easy access in a high waisted black latex girdle. (Made by yours truly- Steffy the rubberdoll came down and showed Mommy and I how to glue a couple of years ago. This was my maiden piece.)I also wore latex toe socks, a creme colored latex business shirt and a smart black hood with white piping. I was definitely dressed down compared to my doll like companions.

My accomplice and I strapped the male doll into my black and chrome surgical chair. (That chair sure is seeing a lot of action lately.)We used long strips of perforated rubber to secure him tightly before slipping his shorts down. (We needed access to his fuck hole.) She began stroking his cock and lubing his ass while I watched. The two of us were wearing heavy weight, white latex gloves and it made it all seem so nasty and clinical. She was finger fucking his hole while I checked his restraints. I slipped a chair into position just below his ass and slipped my middle finger in as soon as she moved back to his cock. I adore a nice tandem handjob when it is executed well. ( Both giving and receiving.) So often they can end up a sloppy, second rate porno gesture of naughtiness that just doesn't scratch the itch. This was magic. She knew his cock well enough to give the term tease and denial a new standard and I am an ass master. Yes, you heard that right; A master of the ass. Lets just say our combined talents had the fuckdoll thrashing about and begging for mercy. His prostate was hard and easy to violate. You should have heard him squealing. Good times indeed.

Ill have to fill you in on the raunch bestowed on my accomplice a little later. I have to get out into the daylight. I have been spending way too much time in the dark.